Why am I doing a blog? I don't know lol! Seriously I do have reasons. My immediate group of girlfriends have decided to take an eternity to have children! Umm ladies I'm still waiting! Luckily numbers are increasing, but I feel like I only have one friend that will be real with me about the whole baby thing! She has been sooo helpful and answers all my questions, but I need more! I am envious of these girlfriends that all have babies around the same age! Hmmm maybe my girlfriends will accidentally get knocked up? I can only hope.
So the point is I have a whole new group of mommy friends on facebook that are now there for me, but I need more people to be real with in another setting. This whole mom thing is hard, and I'm just trying to learn as I go. I want to say the crazy things I think without judgment. Don't take everything I say literal NANA. Its sort of tongue and cheek. Maybe some of my mom confessions would horrify Nana lol. Anyway I just want a mommy group that isn't going through feeds on facebook for people that don't have kids to get annoyed over. Some of my mommy friends are full of knowledge that I soak up like a sponge. Who knew I'd care so much when other moms started rice cereal?
Anways I am consumed with the mommy world, and I am sure only moms really get where I am coming from. Who knew this would happen? So this is my experimental blog. I am still trying to figure this all out. I'd really like for other moms to also be able to vent, and not just me. Any suggestions? Who knew there is a whole blog world of really funny moms?! I love it! Wow Parenting Magazine what have you done to me?
The Confessions & Reality Of A New Mommy In The SCV
Thursday, March 31, 2011
Anything You Can Do I Can Do Better
Why can't woman rally with each other? Why does it always have to be competition and little digs at each other? I think we should support one another and make each other feel better about ourselves not worse.
It truly is a miracle having a baby grow inside of you. Its beautiful yes, but lets be honest its also horrifying. When your ankles swell the size of your head and your stomach looks like a road map, umm yeah not so beautiful. There's much much scarier things that happen, but I am not getting into that.
As I went through my own pregnancy I got the, "are you having twins?" Umm no sweetheart I am not having twins, and yes this is my first! AHhh gasp, "you're so big!" Ahh actually no I'm not, there is a human in me and I am only 5'-3". There isnt a lot of room. Why the need to say these things to me? Who knows, they're crazy bitches. So as I grew into a whale the digs didn't help. Don't get me wrong, I had plenty of people that told me I was beautiful too. Thank you family and friends. : ) The digs though stayed with me and made me fell HORRIBLE!
My favorite is talking to other moms and comparing the weight gain! There are the moms you can talk to that just laugh with you about the weight gain, but then there are the moms that love to let you know they gained 10lbs. I am exagerating but you know what I mean. I DO have friends that are tiny naturally so its expected during their pregnancy that they stay tiny. My point is your not better than anyone else because you only gained 10 lbs. It's the end result after the babies that counts right ladies? Am I just trying to make myself feel better because I gained 45lbs lol?!?
To the men in our lives that want the pre-baby bod back. No it will never be like how it was, but yes we will get it back. Stretch marks fade, milk engorged boobs perk back up, and that basketball stretched belly tightens up. Ahh doesn't that sound lovely?
To the girls that laugh about the fact they gained 75lbs I praise you for keeping it real. I think some woman lie about how much they gained too. Why though I have no idea.To the woman that gained "the normal amount" good for you for having such self control! I actually think there is soooo much more to pregnancy than self control. Some things are out of our control. I think every past and present prego knows we are all different. Embrace what God gave you, and definitely embrace you had the ability to even carry another human in you!
To all the pregos and ladies that just had a baby. Remember you had a baby grow in you! You'll get it back with a little help from the gym. To the pregos enjoy it! There are plenty of woman that support you in your lives I'm sure. If not....please get new friends! Here's to hoping we can stick together!!
It truly is a miracle having a baby grow inside of you. Its beautiful yes, but lets be honest its also horrifying. When your ankles swell the size of your head and your stomach looks like a road map, umm yeah not so beautiful. There's much much scarier things that happen, but I am not getting into that.
As I went through my own pregnancy I got the, "are you having twins?" Umm no sweetheart I am not having twins, and yes this is my first! AHhh gasp, "you're so big!" Ahh actually no I'm not, there is a human in me and I am only 5'-3". There isnt a lot of room. Why the need to say these things to me? Who knows, they're crazy bitches. So as I grew into a whale the digs didn't help. Don't get me wrong, I had plenty of people that told me I was beautiful too. Thank you family and friends. : ) The digs though stayed with me and made me fell HORRIBLE!
My favorite is talking to other moms and comparing the weight gain! There are the moms you can talk to that just laugh with you about the weight gain, but then there are the moms that love to let you know they gained 10lbs. I am exagerating but you know what I mean. I DO have friends that are tiny naturally so its expected during their pregnancy that they stay tiny. My point is your not better than anyone else because you only gained 10 lbs. It's the end result after the babies that counts right ladies? Am I just trying to make myself feel better because I gained 45lbs lol?!?
To the men in our lives that want the pre-baby bod back. No it will never be like how it was, but yes we will get it back. Stretch marks fade, milk engorged boobs perk back up, and that basketball stretched belly tightens up. Ahh doesn't that sound lovely?
To the girls that laugh about the fact they gained 75lbs I praise you for keeping it real. I think some woman lie about how much they gained too. Why though I have no idea.To the woman that gained "the normal amount" good for you for having such self control! I actually think there is soooo much more to pregnancy than self control. Some things are out of our control. I think every past and present prego knows we are all different. Embrace what God gave you, and definitely embrace you had the ability to even carry another human in you!
To all the pregos and ladies that just had a baby. Remember you had a baby grow in you! You'll get it back with a little help from the gym. To the pregos enjoy it! There are plenty of woman that support you in your lives I'm sure. If not....please get new friends! Here's to hoping we can stick together!!
Wednesday, March 30, 2011
Alone in the Crib
I know this may sound awful, but I have to say it has crossed my mind. My baby is 5 1/2 months old. He can barely sit on his own and isn't crawling yet. So he can't really go anywhere. I have two dogs that before the baby had tons of attention so I try to keep their lives the same. Have you ever tried to walk a stroller and 2 dogs? It is freaking hard! If a another dog approaches us forget it its over. The one time I tried another dog came across our path and it turned into chaos. The other woman was trying to detangle me. So it has crossed my mind when my baby is sleeping to take the dogs for a quick walk. Hes safe in his crib so whats the harm? I'll be gone 15 minutes. Don't worry I wont do it. If there was a fire or any sort of disaster I wouldn't be able to live with myself. So am I awful that this even crosses my mind? The same goes for when I need to run into the bank. Getting the car seat out is so annoying and then getting the stroller out! Come on now? I know someone has left the baby in the car! Pre mommyhood I might be in shock seeing a baby alone in a car, but now I am much more understanding!
The "SCV Mom"
So I am a new mom in the SCV, but trust me I always knew the "SCV Mom." For those of you that don't know what SCV stands for it is Santa Clarita Valley. Yep that is where I live and have been living for the past twenty years. Good old Santa Clarita in lovely Cali.
You have to understand there are all kinds of moms in this town from the older moms with grown kids trying to figure out the next step in their lives, the younger new moms exploring mommyhood like me, and the moms that are right smack in the middle of mommyhood who have almost fully mastered the art of being a mom.
So anyway I want to talk about a whole other breed of mom that is everywhere you go from the grocery store to the restaurants. The "SCV Mom" tends to aim for perfection. She wants to appear she has it all! When I say it all I mean from the look, to the money, to juggling the kiddos. She doesn't work. Her work is hitting the gym, tanning salon, and nail salon. Her part time job is taking care of the kids. Her hair and make-up are always perfect, and even when dressed casual she looks so darn cute. She has the cutest body that makes you envious. Did she really carry all those children? I had one and I am honestly STRUGGLING to lose the baby fat! Its safe to say she has had some sort of plastic surgery. For sure some botox and a good old boob job! She drives an expensive car and lives in a picture perfect house.
I think that the truth is she may appear to have it all her credit cards are maxed out, she has self esteem issues, and is begging to break out of mommy world to do her own thing! Will I be the "SCV Mom" one day?
You have to understand there are all kinds of moms in this town from the older moms with grown kids trying to figure out the next step in their lives, the younger new moms exploring mommyhood like me, and the moms that are right smack in the middle of mommyhood who have almost fully mastered the art of being a mom.
So anyway I want to talk about a whole other breed of mom that is everywhere you go from the grocery store to the restaurants. The "SCV Mom" tends to aim for perfection. She wants to appear she has it all! When I say it all I mean from the look, to the money, to juggling the kiddos. She doesn't work. Her work is hitting the gym, tanning salon, and nail salon. Her part time job is taking care of the kids. Her hair and make-up are always perfect, and even when dressed casual she looks so darn cute. She has the cutest body that makes you envious. Did she really carry all those children? I had one and I am honestly STRUGGLING to lose the baby fat! Its safe to say she has had some sort of plastic surgery. For sure some botox and a good old boob job! She drives an expensive car and lives in a picture perfect house.
I think that the truth is she may appear to have it all her credit cards are maxed out, she has self esteem issues, and is begging to break out of mommy world to do her own thing! Will I be the "SCV Mom" one day?
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)