Wow I haven't written in awhile! Life gets busy! Geez! Lately I'm just drained! Babies are a lot of work! People tell you before what you should expect when you become a mom, but I don't think you will ever understand until you're actually in it. Yes I am officially full blown in it!
I think I kind of want to get something off my chest. I am sure every single mom can relate to this. My inspiration came from the show Bethenny Ever After. I love it, and I love her! She's so real! Nothing worse than fake people. So anyway there was this scene when her Nanny took her daughter to her church. Long story short it was supposed to just be a prayer service for the baby, but the women in the church kind of took the baby into their own arms and it appeared the baby might be having a christening. This is something special Bethenny wanted at her own church. The poor baby is crying in a strangers arms, and Bethenny was completely out of her comfort zone. These women, who she didn't even know, she felt were crossing the line with her baby. She sort of freaked and pulled her baby out of their arms and ran outside. The woman really didn't mean harm. What actually made me relate was how Bethenny was screaming in her head give me my baby, but she was so hesitant and tyring to be so polite. Bethenny is Mom, and Mom knows what's best. So it makes me ask myself why don't I speak up in similar situations? I know whats best for my baby so SAY something!
This is something that sort of annoys me. No sorry not sort of, it completely drives me crazy!I am sure every single mom can relate to this. I gave birth to my son, and believe it or not I know him better than anyone else! I know a lot of great women that have had children and are very experienced with kids in general. Sometimes they have great tips that I soak up, but sometimes I want to snap, "I know what my own baby needs!"
I'll give you examples of what I mean. I know when my baby is fussy and really just needs a nap. I know when my baby is fussy and needs a bottle. I know when my son is happy, and I know when my son is bored. So if I know he needs a bottle, and I am told by someone else he doesn't why do I listen? Why do I take the bottle out of his mouth when he's fighting it, when really I know give him a second and he will down that bottle. I love the, "he will tell me when he is tired." Yes he may, but there is an actual science and schedule to this. Okay maybe not a science, but I have a schedule that I live by. When I change it even slightly the troll in him comes out!
I can't stand it when I'm trying to put my baby down for a nap, and someone can't stand that he's fussing so they pick him up! Not just pick him up, but "play" with him. When I say play, I actually mean he was being held while "he rode a dog." Don't even ask because I don't even know. Just like Bethenny I was screaming in my head this is insane, but so hesitant to do anything. To me its like your defying my authority. I want to say, "what the hell are you thinking?"
I think in the end I've learned I need to just speak up in these sort of situations, and not worry about being polite. At the end of the day Mom does know best!
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I love this. I obviously dont relate on the mommy level, but who hasnt been in a situation where you just want to scream at someone but instead you do the polite thing and scream in your head instead.
ReplyDeleteAs I get older I realize I'd rather just be the person everyone thinks is an asshole than torture myself in my head. Real friends will get it. The not so real friends won't but who really wants those people around anyway. :) xoxo